Tribute to Jeanie Skaf
This page was created as a tribute to the late wife owner, Robert Skaf. Jeanie passed away much too soon on Sunday, April 16, 2023. Her family will hold her in their hearts forever.
Obituary for Jean Ann Skaf (Abernot)
Jean Ann Skaf, known as Jeanie to many, was born on October 31st, 1965, in Sault Ste. Marie as the youngest of four children. Jean Ann graduated from Sir James Dunn high school and went on to complete a hairstyling course at Sault college. After spending time working as a hairdresser at Nadine's Hair Boutique, Jean Ann spent a summer in Longlac visiting cousins and working at Skaf's Foods grocery store. It was there that she met the love of her life, Robert Skaf, whom she married on September 3rd, 1988, at St. John's Anglican Church. Jean Ann was always up for a good time and a good laugh, there are countless fun memories she shared with all who surrounded her.
Jean Ann never missed her favourite shows, like Survivor or Big Brother. She always had a kind and welcoming spirit and was a mother to all who spent time with her. Jean Ann was a woman of faith, a dedicated sister, a loving wife, a caring mother to her two children, an adoring grandmother and loyal friend. Her natural ability in motherhood is a true testament to her character, having lost her own mother (Mary Jean) to cancer at the age of 4.
Jean Ann is remembered and deeply missed by her husband of 34 years, Robert Skaf. Children Joseph Skaf (wife Gloria and grandchildren Joshua, Isabella, and Alexander) and Jennifer Colquhoun (husband Jamie and grandsons Jack and Cooper). Siblings Dennis Abernot (wife Linda) of Sault Ste. Marie, Ernie Abernot of Sault Ste. Marie, and Clayton Abernot (wife Carol) of Burlington. As well as an abundance of wonderful nieces and nephews and numerous close family friends who will all miss her greatly.
Jean Ann was predeceased by her mother Mary Jean Abernot, father Emile Abernot, father-in-law Georges Skaf, mother-in-law Marie Skaf, and close family, Linda Abernot, May Mounayer, Ghassan Mounayer, Robert Sloan, Gabriel Mounayer, Reg Essa, Harry Assad, George Rahal, Maria Salatino and Paul Mclean.
Jean Ann, there are not enough words in our language to share how deeply sad and heartbroken we all are. We end by quoting Elton John’s Candle in the Wind,
“Even though we try
The Truth Brings us to tears
All our words cannot express
The joy you’ve brought us through the years
Your candle burned out long before your legend ever will”
WHY THE WORLD NEEDS MORE JEANIES
Written by Robert Skaf.
April 25, 2023.
First of all, I must thank all our friends and families for their support in our time of grief. Your help came in at a time when most needed. Your kindness will
always be remembered and appreciated. Special thanks for your generous donation. Food insecurity is now a major problem for many people in Canada and
the rest of the world.
Before meeting Jeanie, I must confess that no plans for starting a family were in the work. I had too many in my family who counted on my help, and I did
not want to let them down. Additionally, as a grocer, my job was very demanding.Things changed after meeting Jeanie. She wanted a family. I cannot imagine how miserable and empty my life would have been without Joseph and Jennifer.
With their adorable children, they make me want to live forever. Jeanie is only one of the many people who knew the importance of having
a family. Scientifically speaking, if humanity ever decided to stop reproducing, our species would go extinct in less than 50 years. Now you see why we need more Jeanies.
As we all know there are two sides to everything in life. We all lead a dual existence. We exist physically, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. Jeanie’s support was crucial in all aspects of my life. A stubborn man who always insisted on having things done my way, Jeanie taught me better. I learned from her to listen and allow others to be what they want to be. She was my better side. A loner who valued solitude, Jeanie showed me the other side of life. The one where we can have fun and joy. As a leader, I was only interested in giving instructions. Jeanie introduced me to the better side of leadership. The side where the leader listens to all associates.
Born in the fifties, when society did not tolerate any forms of different behavior, Jeanie made it easy for me to be more open-minded and accepting of all the social changes. And by that she showed me a better side which is tolerance.
Jeanie always chose love over hate; beauty over brutality; peace over violence. She also believed that hope will always triumph over despair. Generous to a fault, instead of being selfish and resentful, she encouraged me to help my family and friends. She never held grudges and convinced me that forgiveness is more important than revenge, that to err is human but to forgive is divine. After losing our little chain, our family had to endure all types of hardship. It was her solid support that helped us cope with the tragic loss of the business. Also, I must note, that by bringing Charlie (our dog) into our life, she converted me into an animal lover.
Jeanie was my guiding light who helped me become a better person. It is for all these reasons that the world needs more people like her.
I am a strong believer that our world needs assertive women in the lives of every leader. Perhaps, if there were courageous women in the lives of dictators such as Putin, wars could be prevented. For the record, it is the brave women in Iran who are leading the fight against the atrocious barbaric savage regime of the Mullahs. In Lebanon, my country of origin, women are leading the way against oppression, corruption, and suppression.
It is a fact that women were the ones who dared speak against napoleon. Even a dictator, he expressed his admiration by stating “she who rocks the crib in her right hand can rock the world in her left hand.” It is no wonder that in Russia, women are brave enough to protest against the war. I must note that Putin waited until Angela Merkel (The former German Chancellor) retired before starting the war against Ukraine.
Personally, one woman always reminds me about courage. I was a young boy when after a fight with another boy who ended up with a broken arm. His dad did not have the guts to confront me, but his mom did. She swung a slap to my face that made my head spin ever since.
The fact that in the chess game, the queen is the most powerful figure proves that even ancient civilization valued women. This is an amazing observation when one realizes that the game goes back thousands of years in history if not ten thousand years.
And all these are the more reasons why the world needs more Jeanies.
I am going to miss Jeanie for as long as I live. I will be praying for her on a
daily basis. But knowing her, she would be praying for me too. She would feel that
we need her help more than she needs ours.
Thanks again for the love and affection all our families and friends extended
to us. You have all made our pain more bearable.
Please read the following poems I wrote back in 2015 and 2016,
which I feel accurately portrays my feelings at this time.
Feb 13, 2016
By Robert Skaf
No matter what day,
The sun may stop shining.
No matter what day,
The earth may stop turning,
The rivers may stop flowing,
The oceans may stop churning.
No matter what day,
The birds may stop chirping,
The galaxies may stop spinning,
The flowers may stop blooming.
No matter what day,
The wind may stop blowing,
The cloud may stop rolling.
No matter what happens
To the stars,
To the sun,
To the moon,
To the universe,
I will never stop loving you.
Feb 08, 2015
By Robert Skaf
You may extinguish the last spark of vision in me.
You may deplete the last atom of energy in my body.
You may turn me into a frail, weak pile of skin and bones.
You may strike me with every infliction ever known to humanity.
You may deprive me from savoring a simple meal.
You may prevent me from enjoying a single moment of joy or happiness or laughter.
You may morph me into an old grumpy man devoid of wit and humour.
You may soon confine me to a wheelchair.
You may destroy my spirit, my hopes, and my dreams.
You may sap my soul of the last glimpse of hope.
You may deny me a simple act of kindness and care.
You may not allow me a simple smile.
You may rob me of the last shred of dignity.
You may even celebrate victory.
But, old age,
You shall never ever take my love away from me.